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Have You Given A ServiceMan or Woman a Personal Thank You Lately?

We all know how important it is to remember those ServiceMen and Women who have gone before us and paid the ultimate price to insure our freedoms. 

Many of us Active Rainers have written posts about this weekend being Memorial Day Weekend, or, as my GrandMother used to call it, Decoration Day.

But... in addition to that... there is one suggestion I would love to make.

One thing I might add... is that each person reading this post... and all the rest of the Memorial Day posts... make a personal vow... that the next time we see someone whom we recognize as currently serving... how about if we go up to that person or persons and personally thank them for serving our country. 

It could happen anywhere.  At the local Dairy Queen, at the drug store, while shopping in Krogers, at the Ballpark watching a baseball game, or even at the Indy Five Hundred.

Just walk up to someone who appears to be in the Service, and ask them if they are on Active Duty.  Then just a simple "I just wanted to say Thank You for serving our country, and helping to keep all of us free."

I have done this many times... and the look in the eyes of those I have thanked... is simply priceless.

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Note:  Decoration Day began after the Civil War.  Mostly women's organizations "decorated" the graves of their Confederacy fallen heroes in and around Richmond, Virginia.  In some ways it was done as a solemn commemoration of their deaths, and in some ways as a remembrance of their lives.

The same "decorating" of the graves of Union soldiers... with flowers and flags... was done as well.  Gradually, the name "Decoration Day" was replaced by "Memorial Day"... but the custom of placing flowers and flags at the graves of our fallen heroes... is STILL done today in many cemeteries, as I am sure you know.  The custom of putting flags at the grave sites, as seen in the picture, is an example of that "decorating."

A better, or more complete explanation of Memorial Day - Decoration Day can be found by reading the first five paragraphs at this link. 

By the way... I am 68 years old, and the Grandmother I spoke of would have been telling me these stories in the late 1940's and early 1950's.  Grammy was born in 1888... and had many, many stories to tell.  Honestly, it was SO much better than cable.

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Comment balloon 62 commentsKaren Anne Stone • May 26 2012 03:37PM

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Hi Karen Anne,

I just spoke to a retired marine this week and thanked him personally for his service.  He's a security guard for the subdivision where I closed a deal last Friday.  I also reach to my brother who spent eight years in the Navy to thank him.  It's the least I can do.  Great post.  Best of success to you this year!

Posted by Jordon Wheeler, J W Group Real Estate Sales and Service (The Jordon Wheeler Group) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne I do this every oportunity I get. And your right the look in their eyes says it all.  They deserve to be honored and recogised - often.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten,CRS,CRB,GRI, Arizona's Top Banana of Real Estate! (Phoenix Property Shoppe) over 5 years ago

Hi Karen Anne,

We took a get away trip to Italy and on our way home we met several service men and women and personally called out a thank you for their service in the airports. The smile that came to their lips made us feel good all over! You are so right..we need to make sure we express our gratitude!

Posted by Dorie Dillard, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.346.1799) over 5 years ago

Hello Karen Anne -- after I read the essence of this as a comment on John McCormack's Memorial Day post, I certainly thought it was deserving of more attention.   This is a wonderful sentiment for any day and certainly this weekend.   

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) over 5 years ago

Jordan:  Just think of how happy and appreciated your saying that made those folks feel.

Anna:  As we both said... the look in their eyes says it all.  I am also sure that neither you nor I want to see some of the things these heros and heroines have seen while they have served.

Dorie:  That is great... what a welcomed surprise I am sure it was for them.  Making sure they know how grateful we are... what a great thing to do.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

Hi Karen Anne. I love your suggestion, and I will certainly do this as often as I see someone on Active Duty. We owe them a lot for our Way of Life and our Freedom in this country. I Salute every veteran, past and present.

Posted by Jerry Newman, Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation (Brown Realty, 210-789-4216,www.JeremiahNewman.com) over 5 years ago

Excellent idea Karen Anne, putting that THANKS into ACTION person to person....

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) over 5 years ago

Excellent suggestion. We just put down flags this morning at a military cemetery-son is in the Cub Scouts

Posted by Harry F. D'Elia, Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR (Real Estate and Beyond, LLC) over 5 years ago

Miss Karen- this is an excellent suggestion.  We don't have to wait to do it on these special holidays either.

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) over 5 years ago

There was a serviceman sitting in a restaurant this morning by himself eating his Breakfast.  I asked the waitress to give me his bill and not tell him who paid. 

When he got up to leave   and found out someone paid his bill, he announced to the entire restaurant " Thank You to who ever bought my Breakfast"

Someone else said..."I don't know who did that, but thank you for your service."  The small country restaurant broke into clapping.  It brought tears to my eyes how a simple act briought so much more!

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) over 5 years ago

I wonder how many think about the sacrifices service-members and their families make.  Some of us live everyday with the hole in our heart from losing a loved one in the service.  We know this weekend is more than just a chance to write a blog post and I hope more people realize they need to reach out on a regular basis to our troops and their families not just one a year.

Posted by Cindy Jones, Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News (Integrity Real Estate Group) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne

We can't thank our service personal enough ought for what they do for us.

Good luck and success/

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) over 5 years ago

HI Karen Anne...My dad served in Germany during WWII so Memorial Day has always had a great deal of meaning for me even though I was a young girl when he was gone.  So many have given so much of their time and even sometimes even their lives to ensure our freedom.  When will it ever change?

Kate

Posted by Kate Elim, Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a (Dockside Realty) over 5 years ago

As a veteran, I appreciate it when someone sees my office photo and says "thank you", and I try to thank the service people that I meet!!

 

Posted by Travis "the SOLD man" Parker; Associate Broker, email: Travis@theSOLDman.me / cell: 334-494-7846 (Team Linda Simmons, Enterprise, AL 36330) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne, I always say thank you to anyone in uniform.  I appreciate the sacrifices that they make for our freedom.

Posted by Kathy Sheehan, Senior Loan Officer (Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021) over 5 years ago

It's actually a way of life for me to do just that Karen Anne.  I did it sometimes when I was younger, but now every opportunity I have.  We also taught our children to do this as well. 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 5 years ago

Hi Karen Anne,

What a great suggestion.  I would also consider giving those that lost someone to a war, whether it be WW II, Vietnam, or one of our recent wars a BIG hug.  Their family member/friend paid the utlimate price for our freedom. 

 

Posted by Sondra Meyer:, See It. Experience It. Live It. (Hayden Outdoors, LLC Colorado) over 5 years ago

Ms. Karen Anne, sadly I know from personal experience how much support has faded over the last few years. The thing is though a simple Thank You can go such a long way and it's very much appreciated. Hubby came home the other day with some Sushi he had picked up on his way .. still in uniform. Just like that they extended a discount to him and thanked him for his service. It's not about the bit of money saved but the gesture! It makes a huge difference in our lives.

Posted by Andrea Bedard, M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond (Thompson Company, REALTORS®) over 5 years ago

Miss Andrea:  Of COURSE it's about the gesture.  It can do so much to help lighten the burden these men and women carry if they think that they are not appreciated... or even that they have become alone and invisible. 

Just like in many situations in this world, and in our lives... just knowing that someone CARES... can make all the difference in the world.

Please make sure your hubby knows that we are grateful... and that we care...

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne - it is a good blog, and I was also pleasantly surprised by William's comment telling what he did in the restaurant this morning.

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) over 5 years ago

This is a great reminder to just take a moment to say thanks. The comments were some of the best I've seen in a while

Posted by Liz Wallace, Broker C21 Sherlock Homes, Rockville Centre, LI, N (Century 21 Sherlock Homes) over 5 years ago

My youngest son just a couple of months ago got back from his 5th all-expense-paid trip to Afghanistan.  He was home two weeks and said he was bored!  He can hardly wait to go back.

Go figure!

Decoration day?  Does she mean medals and awards?

Posted by Jay Markanich, Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia (Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC) over 5 years ago
Karen Anne, I live in a military town and whenever I meet a soldier or his family I try to thank them for their service. They are so important to our country.
Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices PenFed Realty, Your Clarksville Real Estate Professional) over 5 years ago

Good morning Karen Anne. I have done this regularly regardless of the day. You're right there is a magic look that comes from the service member when you applaud their service. A little thing but meaningful. Did you get a cat to love yet?

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne:

What a nice idea.  And, something to think about doing this weekend -- and every weekend.  We have so much to be grateful for -- and so many who deserve our gratitude.

Posted by Carie Shapiro (North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate) over 5 years ago

Jay in #22:  No, not medals or awards.  Decoration Day began after the Civil War.  Mostly women's organizations decorated the graves of their Confederacy fallen heroes in and around Richmond, Virginia.  In some ways it was a solemn commemoration of their deaths, and in some ways a remembrance of their lives. 

The same "decorating" of the graves of Union soldiers... with flowers and flags... was done as well.  Gradually, the name Decoration Day was replaced by Memorial Day... but the custom of placing flowers and flags at the graves of our fallen heroes... is STILL done today in many cemeteries... as I am sure you know.

A better, or more complete explanation of Memorial Day - Decoration Day can be found by reading the first five paragraphs of this link.  By the way... I am 68 years old, and the Grandmother I spoke of would have been telling me these stories in the late 1940's and early 1950's.  Grammy was born in 1888... and had many, many stories to tell.  Honestly, it was SO much better than cable.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

I do plan to do this too! Thanks for putting it in a reminder for us.

Posted by Sussie Sutton, UTR TEXAS Realtors - Rep for buyers and sellers. (UTR Texas Realtors) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne - Ha!  My grandmother was born in 1888!  And had stories!

Thanks for the history of the wording!

Did you see this post?     http://activerain.com/blogsview/2113493/mosby-s-grave

Posted by Jay Markanich, Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia (Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC) over 5 years ago
You've written the best Memorial Day post that I've read so far. I can't think of a more meaningful gesture than the face to face "thank you" that each of our Service Men and Women deserve.
Posted by Mark Delgado, Benicia and Vallejo, Property Management, rental h (houses for rent, Solano County & Glen Cove) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne,

This is one the best posts on Memorial Day, and I enjoyed reading it.  Thank you for your perspecitve, and thank you for the kind words on our post...we did gollow up.  Wishing you a fabulous week ahead. A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding and Marketing (Napa Consultants) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne, wonderful post and comments that show how every one CARES. I will come back to read more.

Posted by Anna Dovger, Home Staging -The Woodlands, TX (Add Value Home Staging LLC, 281-704-6607) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne,

Thanks for inviting me to read your post. Very well done. I agree with thanking them in person and have done so also. Often have vets in the classes I teach. :)

Steve

Posted by Steve Hoffacker, Certified Aging In Place Specialist-Instructor (Steve Hoffacker LLC) over 5 years ago

Hi, Karen Anne. On Saturday I did what you suggested. This was a retired Marine. He was wearing a Marine T shirt. I told him I couldn't help but notice his shirt and I wanted to thank him for his service. You're right, that look in the eyes is priceless, and he thanked me for thanking him.

Posted by Debbie Laity, Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO (Cedaredge Land Company) over 5 years ago

We make it a point to call people we know on Veterans Dau and Memorial Day and let them know we appreciate their special contribution.

 

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce - Short Sale (Keller Williams 414-525-0563) over 5 years ago
Yes mam .... Saying a heartfelt thank you to our service men and women is a must! Hope enjoy a great weekend my friend-
Posted by John McCormack, AlbuquerqueHomes.com, Albuquerque Homes Realty (Albuquerque Homes Realty * www.AlbuquerqueHomes.com) over 5 years ago

Yes ma'am. I sure have. Their face lights up and my heart melts. What an honor to shake the hand of a soldier!

Posted by Joni Bailey, Your Huntsville / Lake Livingston Area REALTOR® (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services - Anderson Properties) over 5 years ago

I love your suggestion, its something I do not do enough of- and when I do, I always get a little emotional sob in the back of my throat.  A mere thank you is the least we can do for the amazing soldiers that have given so much back to us.

Posted by Jennifer Polansky, TOP 1% of Realtors in Phoenix, Arizona for 2016 (Realty One Group) over 5 years ago

We always do Karen Anne, always do. They always look back so humbled and embarrassed. If only we had a better way of saying thank you. We are only hoping that the heart talks to their heart and they know we are so sincere! Yes, Grammy's talks would be so much better than cable.

Posted by Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers, Our Family Wants To Help Your Family! (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage) over 5 years ago

Karen, I want to thank you for reminding us to do this...I do love what William did!  A great post and should have been featured.

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Perry Wellington Realty) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne,

                        I too often stop and thank our military as we owe them and a great deal and debt we can never repay! Great post hope you are having a great week.

Posted by Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert, C&G Real Estate Consulting (C&G Consulting) over 5 years ago
Karen Anne, that's a wonderful suggestion. We attended the Memorial Day service at our local VFW and although attendance wasn't bad, I feel more people should show up to pay tribute. Thanks!
Posted by Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES, Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living (Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch!) over 5 years ago

Karen, thank you for your kindness and going up to a service man/woman/family and thanking them. It means a lot. 

Posted by Susanna Haynie, Colorado Springs Realtor GRI CNE MCNE ePro MRP (CO-RE Group, LLC -Real estate sales and services) over 5 years ago

Good morning Karen -

Thought I'd drop back by to wish you a wonderful day ahead and hope you enjoy your weekend to the fullest.  Thank you again for all your support in the Rain.

Happy Friday my friend.

John

Posted by John McCormack, AlbuquerqueHomes.com, Albuquerque Homes Realty (Albuquerque Homes Realty * www.AlbuquerqueHomes.com) over 5 years ago

Susanna... I know it means an awful lot.  Our men and women in the service are so important, and EACH and every one of us should do our part... more than our part, actually... to let them know just how much they mean to us.

And... thank you so much for subscribing to my blog !  Seeing that was a very nice surprise :)  I have subscribed to yours, as well.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne what a great advice to do this, I remember when I was in the Military people in Bars, Restaurants would send me drinks over with a thank you......

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) over 5 years ago

Oh Endre:  I am sure that when it happened to YOU... it probably had nothing to do with you being in the military.  All those women wanted was just for you to take them home.

Seriously, I am sure that meant an awful lot to you.  I know I occasionally hear some who were in the service talk about how they felt so alone and actually looked down upon.  I am one Liberal/Progressive who totally values our servicemen and women, and am so very grateful to them for all they do for us, and the sacrifices they have made.  And... I am very quick to show it, as well.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

Cindy in #11:  I know all about that "hole in your heart" that some folks feel.  Perhaps you yourself have lost someone.  That truly is a hurt that never, ever goes away.  We do what we can... but it is always there.  Gentle huggs to you.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

I have bought many a coffee and breakfast for service people. I prefer to do it anonymously so they believe that anyone in the room can be as proud as I with their service and sacrifice... 

Posted by Paul S. Henderson, CRS, REALTOR®,, Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority! (RE/MAX Professionals.) over 5 years ago

I have done this too, Karen Anne, and it is very, very rewarding! Thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Toni Weidman, 26 Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL (Sailwinds Realty) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne, how did I miss this post? Like you, I do the same, not just on Memorial Day but the other 364 days. People in the service today chose to be there. By doing so, they make a BIG difference in our lives and freedom. Acknowledging what they do let's them know we get it!

Posted by Emily Medvec, Realtor | Serving Santa Fe & Northern NM (Realty One of Santa Fe) over 5 years ago

Yes, I have. They need to hear it from us and they need us to be there for them, because they are there for us.

Posted by Judi K Barrett, BA, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK (Judi Barrett~Integrity Real Estate Services~Idabel, Oklahoma) over 5 years ago

Those are great comments...

 

Posted by Joshua Zargari, MJ Decorators Workshop (MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating) over 5 years ago

Karen Great remeinder.  I did this a few weeks ago and posted what happened.  These people are not askinf for the world, they don't even ask, but just a simple thanks warms thier hearts

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) over 5 years ago

William, to do this, and to see the looks on their faces, is just wonderful.  The tragedy of this story, though, is that most folks... IF they think about saying thanks like this... only do it around days like Memorial Day, and Veterans Day.

This should be something that each of us should think of whenever we see someone in a service uniform.

It's kind of like how around Thanksgiving we see pictures of folks preparing and volunteering at the homeless shelters... and handing out food to the hungry.

Sure, this is a good thing, as well... but there are 364 OTHER days in the year when their hunger is just as present as it is on Thanksgiving day.  We need to "give back."

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 5 years ago

Good Evening Karen Anne,

As a retired veteran of 20 years, I take every opportunity to thank help and serve alongside my fellow brothers in arm.  Servicemembers and their families pay a very high price to defend thi country...the least we can do is publicly recognize them.  Thank you for this suggestion.  By the way, June 27, 2012 is National PTSD Awareness Day...there are more scars than one can imagine...the scars or war that is

 

 

Posted by C. Lloyd McKenzie, Living Albuquerque over 5 years ago

Karen Anne,

I did this last week.  I rarely see service people but when I did last week, I said thank you for serving our country.  Gratitude is what I feel for their sacrifices!

Ann Hayden proud to be an American in Wildwood, MO

Posted by Ann Hayden, SelectAnn.com (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Select Properties-St. Louis Missouri) over 5 years ago

Thanks Karen Anne, I take a past customer to lunch every week and I usually find a couple of uniformed folks eating there and always pay for there meal leaving a thank you card "America Thanks You". I think it is catching with the waitresses as well.

Posted by Charles Stallions, 800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl. (Charles Stallions Real Estate Services ) over 5 years ago

Good morning Karen -

Wanted to come by and let you know you are appreciated for all your Rain support. I hope you enjoy a good and productive week my friend.

John

Posted by John McCormack, AlbuquerqueHomes.com, Albuquerque Homes Realty (Albuquerque Homes Realty * www.AlbuquerqueHomes.com) over 5 years ago

Karen Anne, I don't know how I missed this great post.  We all want to be appreciated and our servicemen and women deserve our appreciation more than anyone.  Thanks for a great reminder.   I like that you will walk up to them.  

Posted by Juli Vosmik, Scottsdale/Cave Creek, AZ real estate 480-710-0739 (Dominion Fine Properties) about 5 years ago

Good reminder for all of us to express our appreciation to those that are serving in the military and those that have served in the past.

Have a wonderful day and keep cool.

Posted by Roy Kelley, Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs (Realty Group Referrals) about 5 years ago

Great post Karen Anne... and it would be great to repost this for Fourth of July as well!  Have a great weekend~  Kathy

Posted by Kathy Schowe, La Quinta, California 760-333-8886 (California Lifestyle Realty) about 5 years ago

Talking to grandmom and great grandma and grand pop IS better than cable. LOL

Posted by Debbie Cook, Silver Spring and Takoma Park Maryland Real Estate (Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc) about 5 years ago

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