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My Daughter Robin and her puppy Lady - Sad Update...

It is very difficult to write this, but so many of you have asked me to keep you updated.

Robin and Lady, her sixteen year old Shih Tzu, were doing ok... until this past Sunday night.  Lady started throwing up again, and started getting weaker.  

Yesterday morning Robin called me.  She was sobbing.  Robin was afraid she was going to have to put Lady to sleep today if she continued to get worse.  Robin was so torn up watching Lady suffer.  And of course, anyone would be.

This morning I called Robin.  She said Lady was failing, and that she had an appointment this afternoon with the vet at 4:30pm.  The way Robin was talking, she was expecting the vet to recomment that Lady be put to sleep.

Robin spent the this morning and early afternoon snuggling with Lady... expecting that today would be her last day with Lady.  I told Robin I would be right over, to be with her and Lady... and also to hold Lady... one more time... before perhaps having to say goodbye... but Robin said she wanted to be alone with Lady.  She also said she wanted me to remember Lady as she was when she was well... not how she was today.  Robin again said that she just wanted to be alone with Lady.  It was so very hard to... but I respected her wishes.

I called her about two o'clock, and she was crying, and just sitting... holding Lady.  Four-thirty has come and gone.

I gave Robin until 7:00pm and then called her... leaving a message on her cell, and at home.  It is 9:40pm... and she has not called yet.  I am assuming the worst... and that Robin simply wants to be alone.  Everyone grieves in their own way.  I will let you all know something with an update to this post when I hear anything new.

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Thirty seconds after I hit the "send post" button... Robin called.  It was just as I thought.  Robin and her boyfriend Guy took Lady to the vet today at 4:30.  With both the vet and Robin agreeing that it would probably be best for Lady... Robin had Lady put to sleep.  I just spoke with Robin now... and we are both very sad... but Lady is now at peace.

Thank all of you who cared enough to send personal emails to Robin (there were quite a few of you) and thank all of you who have commented on the posts about her and Lady while Robin and I have been struggling with this.  Robin would love to hear from any and all of you personally if you wish.  Her email is guyandrobin@sbcglobal.net .   Again... thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and the prayers you sent... to Robin, to Lady, and to me.  We are all so grateful...

Karen Anne

Comment balloon 55 commentsKaren Anne Stone • November 20 2007 10:04PM

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Karen Anne, I can't believe how hard you can fall for a dog.  My old dog, Sparky, died about a year ago, and I still really miss him.  Please give Robin a big hug for me.
Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne my prayers are with all of you.
Posted by Sandy Noll, Real Estate Team From Mill Creek to Mercer Island ((RSVP Real Estate) 425.890.0878) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne, Oh, I am so sorry.  I just can't imagine the pain that Robin is in right now.  But, I guess we have to think of Lady, and like you said, she is now in peace.  I will say a prayer for both you and Robin. I am going to send her an email.
Posted by Roberta LaRocca, REALTOR®, Broker, Salesperson, NV. Lic BS.507 (Simply Vegas Real Estate) almost 12 years ago
Hi Patricia:  It's been hard on Robin to lose her baby.  Robin is only 35, and Lady has been with her constantly since Robin was 18.  Patricia, thanks so much for your kind words.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Sandy:  Robin and I are both grateful for your kindness.  She would love to hear from you.  Take care... and thanks for caring...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Roberta:  I am sure that hearing from you would mean a lot to Robin right now.  Your prayers are so appreciated.  Thanks so much for caring.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Its so hard to lose a dog.  I STILL miss Harley - she died in May.  A friend of mine emailed me today that it was the end of the  line for her beagle, Lucy.  I know that she has no choice but to put her down - so sad.  However, Lucy is about 17 - so she's lived a long life. But I think our dogs all meet up in a better place together.  They have such wonderful souls.
Posted by Ruthmarie Hicks (Keller Williams NY Realty - 120 Bloomingdale Road #101, White Plains NY 10605) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne, I am so sorry to read about your daughter's loss of a beloved pet.  I had to put down our family pet Cocker Spaniel about a year ago, at the age of seventeen.  Her name was Lady.
Posted by Eric Kodner, CRS, Madeline Island Realty, LaPointe, WI 54850 - (Madeline Island Realty) almost 12 years ago
Karen, I was so sad to read this post.  I have had dogs all my life and have lost more than my share of them, the last one Pepper who died in a tragic accident almost a year ago today.  I know all too well how sad poor Robin is.  I will keep her in my prayers and drop her a note.  I'm crying like a baby for Lady.
Posted by Maggie Dokic | Miami, FL | 305.81.HOUSE (46873), GREEN, CDPE, SFR, Pinecrest | Palmetto Bay | (eXp Realty LLC) almost 12 years ago

Karen Anne - there's nothing worse than feeling helpless as a mother.  You did the right thing letting her handle her grief in her own way...and honoring her wishes.  How sad that Lady had to leave us at the holidays...hopefully she'll think of all the wonderful times she's shared in her years as Lady's mom.  My heart goes out to her and you...we had something similar a few holidays ago.  We still talk fondly of this pet who was a true piece of the family. 

My thoughts and prayers are with her and you. 

Posted by Susie Roscoe, Real Estate Specialist | Brandon, FL (Signature Realty Associates) almost 12 years ago
Robin, that is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do.  Blessedly we are able to do that for our animal companions, unfortunately not for our fellow humans though.  I've been there 9 times already 2 horses, 1 cat and 8 dogs, and still have 6 animals here at home.  It sucks!  I was at my vet the other day and he came out into the lobby to get a box of tissues.  I knew why and immediately began crying.  As I told Dane when she lost her two babies, there is a dog out there just waiting for Robin to find it.  That is the only comfort I can offer.
Posted by Terry Haugen STAGE it RIGHT! 321-956-2495 (Stage it Right!) almost 12 years ago

Karen Anne...As her mother, you hurt for Robin while Robin hurts for her "baby."  The cycle continues.  Thank you for sharing your sad news (I had read your early post with the picture of Robin and Lady.  Thanks also for sharing the good news that you are feeling much better. 

I read that you were not doing well and meant to send you a get well card.  If I did all the things I meant to do I would be so loved and so healthy and wealthy.  Meanwhile, I am grateful for the love, health and wealth I do have.

Hopefully you will be with Robin for Thanksgiving.  May it be a blessed one.

Kathleen

Posted by Kate Elim, Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a (Dockside Realty) almost 12 years ago
Karen, I'm sorry to hear about Lady, we get so attached to our pets, they become members of our family and it is so hard when we have to put them down.  I'm glad Robin's boyfriend was there with her, it helps to have someone to grieve with.
Posted by Marchel Peterson, Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro (Results Realty) almost 12 years ago
The loss of a beloved pet (and family member) is so hard.  We had to put one of our dogs to sleep a few years ago, and it was one of the most painful decisions we've ever made.  Rest assured that Lady is no longer in any pain and that she will be with you always.
Posted by Jim & Maria Hart, Charleston, SC Real Estate (Brand Name Real Estate) almost 12 years ago

This story really tore me up.  Dogs are here for a very short time and it is so important to give them all of our love and respect and accept all they have to give in return.  The love they give us is really unconditional and it goes by so fast.

Posted by Terry Voth, Realtor - Vancouver (Sutton Group West Coast) almost 12 years ago
Hi Ruthmarie:  I'm so sorry about Harley.  Having lost her only last May, the hurt is still very fresh.  When Robin was born thirty-five years ago, we had a Basset named Fred.  Robin was born in 1972.  We had to put Fred to sleep in 1978.  I still get very teary-eyed when I think of him.  I probably always will.  Thanks for caring.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Eric:  I'm sure you miss your Lady very much.  My thoughts go out to you, too.  Today was difficult for Robin.  She has had her Lady with her for such a long time.  Thanks for caring, Eric.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Maggie:  I can tell you miss your Pepper very much.  The unconditional love our puppies bring to us is such a blessing.  You sound like such a sweetie.  Robin will appreciate your prayers, and I know she will be absolutely touched by you sending her a note.  Thank you so much for caring.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Susie:  Robin was very sad today.  Sure she has much to be thankful for... but the love that Lady brought to Robin was just so special.  Lady was such a cutie.  It is even hard for me to look at the word "was" in the previous sentence.  Not easy trying to type with such teary eyes.  Susie, thanks for your kind thoughts and prayers.  Robin and I are grateful to so many people who have chosen to share this with us.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Terry:  I am betting that is what may happen... but getting a new puppy so soon... if I know my daughter... she will almost feel like she is betraying Lady's memory.  It will take time... the hurt will lessen... but I doubt it will ever go away.  Thanks for caring...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Kathleen:  I know what you mean about doing all the things you think about doing.  I do know for sure that you are loved by many.  I can just tell.  And yes, I hurt for Robin.  I wish I could take this hurt away... but yes... it is a cycle.  Kathleen... thank you so much for caring.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Marchel:   I told Robin I would gladly go with her, but she wanted to do it on her own.  I can understand that... and that is what I did.  Robin is such a caring person.  Being open to loving and caring also means being open to the hurt when that love departs.  Thank you for your kind and caring thoughts...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Jim and Maria:  Robin's day today was not an easy one.  It is often the case that when all the activity is over... you come home, and your defenses are still up for awhile.  Then comes the quiet of the days that follow... and the sadness really hits you.  Thank you so much for your kind and caring thoughts....
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Terry:  Yes, their love is so unconditional.  And, they seem to understand so well when we need them to be with us... on our lap, in bed with us, or just looking at us wagging their tails like mad.  They just seem to know.  And... there is no doubt whatsoever that the time we have with them goes by so quickly.  Terry... thanks so much for caring, and for your kind thoughts.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne, I'm so sorry.  I'm late finding this, too.  I know Lady was a very special pet and so well loved.  Pets are like a blend of friend and child, and their unconditional love gives us something no human can match.  I'm sorry for her loss.  And I'm going to give my old dog an extra treat today, just because.  (((HUGS)))
Posted by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows) almost 12 years ago

<sigh>  My heart hurts just thinking about it.   Its so so hard.  They love us so unconditionally like no other, always greet us with a smile and a waggin' tail.   

I am sorry for your daughters loss....  Please give her a hug for me!

Posted by Desiree Daniels (RE/MAX Tri County) almost 12 years ago

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughters loss and I hope she does realize that Lady is now in a place that she can run and play all the time.

Robin - You and your family are in our hearts this holiday season and remember Lady as she was, a happy dog with the best owner in the world.

Posted by Respect Realty LLC, Brokers - Oregon / SW Washington Real Estate (Respect Realty LLC) almost 12 years ago
Hi Desiree:  You are just so sweet.  I'm not sure if Robin will ever get over this loss.  The love they give is so very unconditional.  If only we all could learn to love like they do.  Thanks for you kind thoughts... Robin appreciates them.  Take care...  And your little "huggie thing" is so adorable.  Thanks for sharing...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Todd:  Thanks so much for your sweet and very kind comment.  I am very sure your thoughts will warm Robin's heart today.  Lady had that "running and playing" thing down, and her doggie kissies were like no other.  She was a real "personality kid!"  Todd... again... such kind words... thanks so much...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Sarah:  Yes, Lady was special, and she was loved very much.  Your comparison of being like a friend and a child is right on.  And yes, it's a love so unconditional that no human could come close.  You kind words are so appreciated, and your hugs are such wonderful things.  (((HUGS))) back at ya !  Thanks so much for caring... take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne - This is always an extremely difficult decision, and I'm sorry to hear of Robin's loss, especially considering how long she had her special friend Lady.  Thanks for updating us all on this.  I hope you have a terrific holiday weekend. 
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 12 years ago
Hi Jason:  It's going to take Robin quite a while to get over this... or at least for the hurt to lessen.  Thanks so much for your kind and caring words.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago

Time is the only thing that will help her through this.  I know we waited 6+ months to get another puppy.  (we had 2 and wanted to keep it that way)

We're thinking of her...

Posted by Susie Roscoe, Real Estate Specialist | Brandon, FL (Signature Realty Associates) almost 12 years ago
Hi Susie:  Yes, time is usually the only healer.  With some, healing takes longer than with others... depending on the person, and the bond between them and their pet.  Perhaps after six month's Robin's feelings will have lessened enough to think about another puppy.  Thanks for caring, Susie.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago

Karen

You are in my prayers, I just put my sons Lhasa Apso down on Tuesday before leaving for Thanksgiving. I had to do it before we left so we could think about other things. It worked out well. She was a great dog we had her for 12 years.

Posted by Jennifer Bowman (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Beach Properties of Florida) almost 12 years ago
Hi Jennifer:  I am so sorry for your and your son's loss.  Losing a family pet... by having to actually choose to put them to sleep... is such a tragically difficult and painful thing to do.  We usually know that our pet "will be free from pain"... but it is never, ever easy.  Jennifer, thanks for sharing.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago

karen Anne, YOu have me weeping here. I am so sorry ofr you Dear Dughter Robin's Loss. I have been through it myself and even t hough 20 years has passed It still hurts so much to remember.  Please send Robin a Big Hug, for me ((( ))) Hugs,

Ginger

Posted by Ginger Sala, Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~ (Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC) almost 12 years ago
Hi Ginger:  You are so sweet... thanks for caring.  I will share your hug with her.  Hugs have such wonderful healing power.  Powerful medicine.  And Ginger... feeling sad after 20 years is understandable.  I put my sweet Basset Fred to sleep in 1978... and I still hurt from the memory.  Thanks for sharing.  Robin would love to hear from you.  Her email is guyandrobin@sbcglobal.net .
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago

Please your daughter my best and lots of Hugs from Florida.

People call them our pets, but to me they are furry family members that keep us going with unconditional love and affection. Just ask her to remember the funny things that Lady used to do. It surely will bring a smile back to her heart.

Posted by Jacqueline Fortier, Homes for Sale in Central Florida (JC Penny Realty) almost 12 years ago
Hi Jackie:  I will certainly deliver your kind thoughts and your Hugs from Florida.  Unconditional love is such a very difficult thing to find among people... and a very simple thing to find with our pets.  Perhaps in some sort of way... they are actually higher up on the evolutionary chain than we are.  We can surely learn from them.  Many of us won't, but we should.  Thanks so much for caring enough to comment.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Losing a pet for a pet lover can be as hard as losing achild.  I understand.  Take comfort in knowing that Lady is at peace.
Posted by Gayle Balaban, E. TN Waterfront Real Estate (The Best Spot Realty/Waterfront Real Estate/Ooltewah Real E) almost 12 years ago
Hi Gayle:  Lady was such a joy for my daughter Robin.  Losing a loving pet who loved with such unconditional love leaves such a hole in one's life.  Thanks for your kind and caring thoughts.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this.  We have an older dog who is starting to fail and it's so hard to see her get worse each day.  I hope you daughter will be able to find a new pet to shower with love...
Posted by Josette Skilling (Keller Williams Capital Properties) almost 12 years ago
Hi Josette:  I would guess that for a while Robin might think about getting another dog... probably a Shih Tzu.  She is still very upset.  I spoke with her yesterday, and she mentioned she brought Lady's ashes home from the vet last Monday.  I started crying when I heard her say that... just as I am getting teary-eyed seeing these words I'm typing on the monitor screen.  It's what happens when we open our hearts to the unconditional love a pet can give.  When we do that, we also open our hearts to the incredible pain we feel when that beloved pet is taken from us.  Josette... thanks for your kind thoughts.  Both Robin and I appreciate them.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago

Oh this post brings me to tears. It was 3 years ago that we lost our Zeus, and 4 years for Toby.Both were unexpected, but I don't know if that is any better or worse than seeing them struggle. I am glad that Robin got to be with Lady during her final hours. God bless her for having Lady in her life for 17 years. I know what Robin and Guy are going through and I feel for them. My best to them and I hope time heals the wound. I hope in time she can find a new puppy to share the love she has to give.

Happy Holidays!

Posted by Lacey Sollie (Prudential California Realty) almost 12 years ago

My deepest sympathies go out to you and Robin on your loss of Lady.  I know how you feel.  I have been there several times myself.  It is not easy, but at least you know Lady is finally at peace and had a good 17 years.  God bless. 

Posted by Brigita McKelvie, Associate Broker, The Broker with horse sense and no horsing around (Cindy Stys Equestrian and Country Properties, Ltd.) almost 12 years ago
Hi Lacey:  Yes, I know all about tears... with Lady and Robin.  Wow... how horrible to lost two of your babies only one year apart.  It must have been so hard for you.  Yes... being with her baby Lady during her final hours was good in that she and Lady got to say good-bye.  Time will make the hurt lessen, but for many of us with a soft heart... the hurt will be there for a very, very long time... if it ever goes away.  Thanks so much for your kind thoughts.  I will make sure Robin sees them.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Brigita:  Robin and Lady had a great seventeen years.  Lady was so very sweet.  Sometimes even sweeter than Robin... LOL.  Lady's love for Robin, and even for me, was so very unconditional.  There were times when I went to visit Robin and Lady when I was not in such a good mood, and didn't look very nice, either.  But I could always count on Lady to come running up to me... wagging her tail like mad.  I would pick her up, then sit on the sofa, then kinda lay back... almost reclining.  Lady would first get on my lap, then walk over my tummy, and sit down on my chest.  Then she'd nose her way up, and just completely cover me with her lil puppy-kisses.  My eyes are tearing up even as I share this with you.  Brigita, thanks so much for your kind thoughts.  I am sure Robin will feel how much you care.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Karen Ann - Awww these things are hard and hurt intensely at first and then it does get better a bit at a time. I hurt when I hurt and I hurt when others hurt  - some times it seems too much, but Robin can make it and you can help her through. The little furry things and big furry things are really nice to have around.
Posted by Kathleen Lordbock, Keller Williams Realty Professionals (Keller Williams Realty Professionals) almost 12 years ago
How sad, even more so at the Holidays. I know mt dog Rosie is so much more than apet. She is family member and better sometimes. She never argues, does not talk back and is ALWAYS there for a hug or kiss. Unfailingly loyal to me. I am so sorry foy your daughter's and your loss. I can't imagine after having her that long how hard this must be...
Posted by Vanessa Stalets, REALTOR, Brentwood TN Homes, Real Estate (RE/MAX Elite) almost 12 years ago
Hi Kathleen:  It was so hard for Robin.  Lady had been with her for almost seventeen years.  I felt so helpless watching Robin hurting, plus I loved that sweet little puppy myself.  She was always to glad to see me.  Thanks for your kind thoughts, Kathleen.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
Hi Vanessa:  Yes, it has been very sad.  And I very much agree that Lady was probably better than a family member.  She was definitely better than my own brother and sister back in Cleveland... LOL.  Never argues, always so glad to see Robin or me.  It's that pure unconditional love that is almost impossible to find in humans.  I think it has been almost a month now, and the other night I thought about Lady... and started crying myself.  Vanessa... thanks so much for your kind and caring thoughts.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 12 years ago
I am so sorry for your daughter's loss.  Losing a pet is mong the most difficult things to endure.
Posted by Gayle Balaban, E. TN Waterfront Real Estate (The Best Spot Realty/Waterfront Real Estate/Ooltewah Real E) almost 12 years ago
Karen Anne... So sorry for your loss of Lady... Can't imagine holding any of my two mutts for the last time, or having my kids go through saying good bye. Treasure all the memories you had with Lady and remember her that way, now that she is at peace... Hug Robin for me!
Posted by Inna Hardison, Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group (ha media group) almost 12 years ago

Hi Karen. How is Robin doing?

Just wanted to let you know I featured this post in my Active Rain Dog Lovers Year in Review blog.

Ginger

Posted by Ginger Sala, Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~ (Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC) almost 12 years ago

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