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Using the "Myers-Briggs" to Improve Communication... (Part ONE)

What would it be like... if we could better understand each other... and really know where the other... was "coming from ?"

Years ago, Katherine Myers and Elizabeth Myers-Briggs... a mother-daughter team of Psychologists... developed a method of better understanding both ourselves, and others, by means of what they called... "Psychological Type Theory."

Taking the Myers-Briggs... or the MBTI as it was called... gave a person a description of their personality "type"... which could be extremely valuable in helping facilitate communicating with other people.  Various "types" can perceive a certain thing in a great variety of ways... thus making communication.

The Myers-Briggs assists in communication by providing a genuine undersanding of just where people are "coming from" when they interact... when they talk to each other.

Just imagine that you are in a room with fifteen other people.  You speak English, the person next to you speaks Greek, the next person Russian, the next one Chinese, the next one Farsi, the next one French... and so on.  Each of the 16 of you speaks a completely different language, and there are NO translators in the room.

Now, this is an obvious exaggeration, but it should get the point across.  How in the world can any of these Sixteen People... speaking Sixteen Different Languages... understand each other ?  Obviously... they can't !  In discovering our "type..." we will gradually learn to translate these other Fifteen Languages... and learn so much more about the people we meet, we live with, and we love.

Introducing the Eight Aspects of Type Theory:

The first pair of two deciding factors in discovering your Personality Type concerns whether you are an Extrovert or an Introvert.  Each person has two "faces."  One is directed towards the "outer" world of activities, excitements, people and things.  The other is directed inward to the "inner" world of thoughts, interests, ideas and imagination.  While these are two different but complimentary sides of our nature, most people have an innate preference towards energy from either the OUTER or the INNER world.  Thus, one of their faces, either the Extroverted (E) or Introverted (I), takes the lead in their personality development and plays a more dominant role in their behavior.

Extroverts usually re-charge themselves by being around other people.  The often act first, and then think or reflect later.  They can feel deprived when cut off from interaction from the outside world.  They are usually open to and motivated by the outside world of people and things.  And... they usually enjoy a wide variety and change in their relationships with other people.  They like to have lots and lots of friends.

Introverts usually re-charge themselves and re-gain their "energy" by being by themselves.  They usually think and reflect first, and then "act."  They regularly require an amount of "private time" to recharge their batteries.  They are motivated internally, and are sometimes their minds are so "active..." it seems "closed" to the outside world.  They shun crowds, and prefer one-to-one communication and relationships.  They prefer just a few close friends, rather than a larger "circle."

In this first part of our journey into Type Theory... we will find we are either one or the other... E or I. 

I myself am a natural I.  I recharge by going into my "cave."  But, being in real estate, I have had to go against my natural "grain" and learn to go "outside myself" to be a success.  When I share my "introversion" with people... they usually cannot believe I test out as an Introvert on the Myers-Briggs scale.

This is just part one.  There are three additional pairs of choices to be discovered.  Three additional pairs of which side of the coin best describes who you are.  Those will be covered in parts Two, Three and Four... and then in Part Five, we will put it all together and discover what psychological language we speak, which will, of course, really benefit us in understanding ourselves, helping others understand us, and in turn... help us to understand and better communicate with others.

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Karen Anne Stone has been an avid student of Psychological Type Theory since her college days.  Part of her work in obtaining her degree in Psychology involved some intense study of the Myers-Briggs, and it continues to interest her more as time wears on.  Karen Anne "the Realtor" can be visited on her website at www.NewHomeHuntersOfTarrantCounty.com .  She can also be reached by phone at (817) 929-3400.  Her email address is KarenAnneStone@gmail.com .

Comment balloon 22 commentsKaren Anne Stone • October 04 2007 09:33PM

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Karen - I am familiar with the Myers-Briggs, although I haven't taken it for awhile.  I also took the MMPI once years ago. 
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago
So Jason:  Just what is your Myers-Briggs type ?  Mine is INFP... if you remember the distinctions.  Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiver.  Thanks for visiting.   Karen Anne
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
I don't honestly recall my type.  I guess I would need to take it again.  Can do you it online? 
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago

Hi Jason:  So, you don't recall your type, huh ?  Well... My Mother warned me about guys like you.  I know yer type, buddy.  So... just be careful... LOL.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
Do you know if there is an online version?
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago
Hi Jason:  Yes, I am pretty sure there is.  But I am also pretty sure you will have to pay to take it.  I looked it up on Google, and there was quite a bit to choose from.  There are also some abbreviated forms that you could take, even including one I could email you, if you wish.  It is not the MBTI, but something more brief, but it parallels the MBTI.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
Go ahead and email me whatever you have.  I need to know what type I am, right?
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago
Great post, Karen.  The Myers Briggs is vaguely familar to me and I'm sure I took it at some point.  Keller Williams is BIG on the DISC test, which is very similar.  Search for it and you'll find it!  Thanks Karen, I love this stuff too!
Posted by Eric Everett (Keller Williams Realty Heritage) almost 11 years ago

Hi Jason:  No, you do not need to know in advance what type you are.  This is an abbreviated form that I have from a book from years ago, I think by David Kiersey.  In taking it, I can then tell you what 'type" you are.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
I didn't mean that I would need to know in advance - sorry for the miscommunication on my part.  I was just saying that it would be good to find this out.
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago

Hi Eric:  Actually, the DISC, and many more like it, were probably devised from someone with knowledge of Psychological Type Theory... and simply sifting through the literature, and then "re-working" the type theory into a new test... that basically did the same thing, but often in a more brief, and supposedly more user-friendly form.  Sometimes, though, things can be "watered down" to make them more user-friendly... to a point where they become almost useless.  I am NOT implying that about the DISC.  It is a good tool.  Just saying that it has been done.

Along those lines... many years ago I did something similar.  I am one of those "types" who sees "possibilities" in everything.  That is the "P" in my INFP.  So, I devised my very own "type" evaluator... I called it the Stone Temperment Assessment Rating... the acronym for which was, of course... STAR.  [ Yeah... I many be an Introvert, but I do have an ego... LOL ]

It usually takes very little motivation for me to "mess with" just about anything... LOL>

Thanks for your comment, and thanks for visiting.     Karen Anne

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
Sorry Jason:  I guess I misinterpreted your response.  It's late... and I am... "older."  <grin>
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago
It is not your fault.  I read my comment again, and it could have gone either way.
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) almost 11 years ago
Great definitions of Ntros and Xtros. Looking forward to the next episode!
Posted by Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul) almost 11 years ago
Hi Jennifer:  Thanks for your kind comment, and thanks for visiting.  Take care...
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago

Karen,

Can someone first be an extrovert and then become an introvert as they get older?

Posted by Adele Irving - Easton Area Homes (Prudential Patt, White Real Estate) almost 11 years ago

Hi Adele:  You can be more of a person who is more extraverted, and tend later to be more introverted, yes.  But... what you are depends on what you do to "recharge your batteries."  Kind of after a long day... an extrovert just cannot wait to get together with a bunch of friends, go out, party, or just jabber all night.  An introvert... after a long day... the last thing they would want to do would be with anybody.  They would more prefer to go home, turn off the phone and the computer, and just chill, read, light a fire, watch a movie by themselves... and in doing so... "recharge."  Kind of build your batteries up.

When I tell people I am an Introvert... the usual response is... "well, ya coulda fooled me !"  That is because over the years I have learned to associate with people.  I have learned to do it when I have to... like teaching a bunch of kids all day, or being a Realtor, doing Realtor stuff, calling or meeting people, approaching total strangers in the supermarket and just starting to talk to them... kind of like Joe Stumpf and his Starbucks video.  You can learn to do something, and learn to do it pretty well.  But... that does not mean that you "re-charge you batteries" that way.  Does any of this make sense ?  And... have you done your "homework?"  Take care... go get 'em girlfriend !

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago

Karen Anne,

Yes this makes sense and yes again I did most of my homework.   Thanks for all your great advice and helpful info.

 

Posted by Adele Irving - Easton Area Homes (Prudential Patt, White Real Estate) almost 11 years ago
Well then, my dear, since you did your homework... when am I going to see some of the results on your profile page, and on your scoring total page ?  Hmmm, my dear ?  Hmmmm <grin>  And, again, Adele, thanks for visiting.
Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago

Great post. I am deinitly an introvert because I love the cave! I'm looking forward to seeing more of this discussion.

Posted by Kotambu "KS" Shabazz, Renton, Real Estate Consultant (Quality Real Estate Services) almost 11 years ago

Hi KS:   Yes, I love my cave, too.  But... since my cave does not get many "walk-in buyers"... I have trained myself, and learned to venture outside my cave. 

Now remember, the cave for the Introvert is not necessarily where she or he wants to stay all the time... it is simply the place an Introvert goes to "recharge her batteries" when she needs that.  Thanks for visiting...

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 11 years ago

I don't need to take the test to see if I am an "I" or an "E."  I have a few "I" moments. But not many! I love, Love, LOVE peoiple! :)

Posted by Joni Bailey, Your Huntsville / Lake Livingston Area REALTOR® (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services - Anderson Properties) almost 5 years ago

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