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Happy Birthday Dad. I Miss You.

Today is my Dad's Birthday.  He would have been 92 today.

For much of last night, and much of this morning, I spent quite a bit of time thinking about him.  Actually... I think about him a lot more often than that.

Once again... I found myself on YOU TUBE… listening to some of the songs that were popular in the 1940′s… when my Dad was in his early 20′s and my Mom was two years younger than that.

There were so many songs there… songs that surrounded Dad and Mom… way back then.

I was mostly listening to songs from WW2.  My Dad was “over there” when I was born early in 1944.  I have a letter that my Mom send my Dad… showing him a picture of her holding lil ol’ me… newly born.

The songs were almost all sung by Vera Lynn.  Two of them were… “You’ll Never Know” (Vera Lynn, 1943) and "When the Lights Go On Again” by Vera Lynn .

They were followed by Ms Lynn… who became Dame Vera Lynn… singing After The Rain, and We’ll Meet Again , and the incredible When I Grow too Old to Dream .  The list goes on and on and on.  You get the picture.

And then I found an interview with Dame Vera. Dame Vera Lynn on GMTV .  It was just simply amazing.  You Tube… in many, many ways… almost makes the past “live again.”

All songs celebrated “the troops”… with the fervent hope and intent that they would someday return.

It’s quite ironic… how the older I get, the more my Dad and his memory mean to me… and the more I realize just how much he went through… to finally come home to me and my Mom… as we waited for him in Cleveland.

Happy Birthday Dad.  I miss you.

Comment balloon 42 commentsKaren Anne Stone • January 23 2011 07:57PM

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Karen Anne -

We were moving this weekend and on our garage, right next to the door was an old Stanford ball cap ... that my Dad wore the last years of his life.  I moved it to the new house ... and it's in the garage, right next to the door.  It's like saying good morning ... and then good night everyday!

I think that I really like that his memory becomes more meaningful with every passing year.  His voice is the message on my home answering machine ... and every now and again, I'll call home just to hear him again!

Thanks so much for shaing this special moment in your life.

 

Posted by Jack Mossman - The Nines Team at Keller Williams in Lodi, The Nines Team in Lodi (The Nines Team at Keller Williams in Lodi) almost 7 years ago

Happy Birthday to your Dad....What a special post!!! My dad was in WWII also!!

Posted by Sheila Newton Team -- Anderson & Greenville SC Real Estate, 27 years experience -Residential Real Estate Sales (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - C. Dan Joyner) almost 7 years ago

What a beautiful tribute to your Dad Karen Anne..............I'm sure you have many bittersweet memories, and the songs on YouTube took you down memory lane.  The longer my Dad is gone, the more I miss him.  When he first died, it seemed right that he was out of his misery...........but I think about him more and more and it's been over two years since he passed.  I know how you are feeling today............thanks for sharing your feelings with your friends on AR. ;~)

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) almost 7 years ago

Karen, you took me back with your post and I can't stop singing, "You'll never know just how much I miss you, you'll never know just how much I care  . . . "  Sometimes the best thing we can do is take a long walk down memory lane.  I agree, the older we get, the more we appreciate what our elders went through and the difficult roads they traveled in their lives.  God bless your dad on the road he travels now.

 

Posted by Geri Sonkin, Long Island Real Estate & Staging Expert (Douglas Elliman Real Estate 516-457-7103) almost 7 years ago

What an ironic connection... a different war, a different time, but my dad was also overseas when I was born.  Navy, so never in an actual combat zone.  But I can't help but feel that is just one of the reasons I feel so connected to you.  Happy Birthday to your dad. 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) almost 7 years ago

Hi Karen Anne... you write the most touching posts about your parents!  YouTube is certainly a great vehicle to satisfy our occasional needs for nostalgia!  Happy birthday to your Dad! 

Posted by Steve Shatsky almost 7 years ago

Happy Birthday to your Dad Karen! This is a very touching post. I am so lucky to still have both of my parents around, I can't imagine how much I will miss them when they are gone. Thanks for the reminder to appreciate the time we have.

Posted by Stephanie Reynolds, East County San Diego Homes 619-838-4408 (Integrity First Financial Group, Inc. ) almost 7 years ago

Karen Ann,

My mom would turn 91 this February. Everything is very similar, same war... and even YouTube is similar. I could not believe it, but I could listen to all thise Russian songs of that time... songs shich everyone knew, and which became par tof us...

It is fascinating that over the ocean, and over the time, we have the same place to go for things so dear to our memory

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) almost 7 years ago

Karen Anne, I can relate both my parents were from that Greatest Generation and had a WWII romance.  My Dad saw 295 consecutive days of battle in Europe and I can remember find all those vintage records in the attic when I was a kid how they didnt break I'll never know.  Watching my parents dance to the 40's music was magical, there is just something about the era in general that I love and I miss both of my parents.  I have all the letters that my Dad wrote to my Mother during the war which I treasure and my Mother kept scrapbooks long before there were these popular scrapbook stores.  I love to remember them in the time of their life! Every holiday and patriotic occasion I get teary eyed. I am sure you have many wonderful memories too.

Posted by Marilyn Boudreaux, Lake Charles LA Century 21 Realtor (Marilyn Boudreaux, Century 21 Mike D. Bono & Co.'s) almost 7 years ago

Karen Anne, It sounds like you had a wonderful Dad. Your post made me realize how blessed I am to still have my Dad.  He is 93 and my Mother is 85.  They are still doing great.  So where was your Dad at during World War II?  My Dad drove a supply truck to the front line over in Europe.  He landed on Omaha Beach 10 days after D day and then followed Patton's troops all around.  He said Patton would clear the area out and then they would follow in and have to clear it out again. When he left for the war my Mother was a little girl but she was all grown up when he got back and the rest is history.

Posted by Marchel Peterson, Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro (Results Realty) almost 7 years ago

The love for your dad shines through in your words Karen Ann and he still lives through your memories of him. He sounds like quite a guy!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin, St. George Area Preferred Residential REALTOR® (Residential, Referrals & Relocation REALTOR at PK Real Estate Utah South) almost 7 years ago

Aw Karen! Dad's are special aren't they? I'm glad that you can celebrate his life with such love!

Posted by Lindsey Hasford, Bringing you home... (Edina Realty) almost 7 years ago

Karen Ann, thank you for sharing your sweet memories of your dad.  Happy Birthday to him!  The music from the 40's is one of my absolute favorites.  I listen to it all the time.

Posted by Elizabeth Arduain, Lubbock Texas Real Estate (The Diamond Group @ Keller Williams) almost 7 years ago

Jack:  How cool to have your Dad's Stanford ball cap right there to greet you when you come home.  What a great memento.  Yeah... I know all about how our memories of our parents become more meaningful as time goes on.  I think it is wonderful that you have his voice on your answering machine... although I must admit that if I had that same thing here... I would be in tears every time I called home and it went to the machine.  And thank you for sharing as well.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Sheila:  My Dad would have really loved those flowers.  Thank you for your kind words.  Is your Dad still with you ?  Hope  so.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Roger:  You were fortunate to have him until two years ago.  It is obvious that he had a very wise son in you.  Bittersweet memories... yes they are.  Good times and bad times... and I remember both.

Where else can we talk about things like this... and have so many of our friends listen, and understand.  Right here.  Hope you and Eddie are well.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Geri:  "You'll Never Know..." what a great song.  I get in fits like that where I just cannot stop singing one of those "old songs."  Another was "Seems Like Old Times..." that just makes me bawl my eyes out. 

I even remember a song that my Mom used to sing with me when I was little.  "I'm In Love with You, Honey..."  That is right in there... in the middle of my brain with the rest of them.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Tammy:  Yes... irony sometimes abounds at times like these.  You and I do have some "interesting" things in common that so seem to connect us... don't we ?  I am glad your Dad was in the Navy.  My Dad was in the Army, and spent long periods of time in the trenches in Italy.  Dear old Benito Mussolini.  Creep.

You take care, Tammy... and thanks for sharing about your Dad.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Steve:  The older I get... (ouch) the more I miss them.  More good times with my Mom, but I think I understand my Dad a whole lot more than I did much earlier in my life.  All of the Iraq and Afghanistan men and women who come home... suffering from PTSD... and so many of those "in power" want to short-change them for treatment that can heal.

It was pretty bad for my Dad when he came home... incredibly needy, and understandably so.  And guess what he found ?  Me.  The "Fifties" could have been better.  But, as they say, I digress.

As I said... the older I get... the more I have grown to understand the craziness that was in his mind right after he came home.  It faded... to whatever degree something that horrible CAN fade.  Yeah... I honestly DO miss my Dad.  I could never, EVER have gone through what he had to.  Never.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Karen:  How beautifully written---this tribute to your dad.  He was a lucky man to have a daughter like you!

Posted by Kirsten Lindquist, Realtor - Sonoma Wine Country (Pacific Union International) almost 7 years ago

Karen what a beautiful tribute to your Dad.  I betcha he's looking down and thinking - that's my girl! My Dad as also in WW2 and his stories as he grew older got more & more real of those times and days.  Brave Men & Women......   My Dad passed over in 05 and he's a happy camper with my Mom now. They were married over 60 years.  I'm lucky to have had such great role models.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB, Arizona's Top Banana of Real Estate! (Phoenix Property Shoppe) almost 7 years ago

Anna:  How absolutely incredible that your Mom and Dad were married for over 60 years.  My Dad didn't tell very many stories from his years in the Service.  I think he spent an awful long time putting distance between himself and those terrible times.  The "softie" I am... I just don't know how he made it through all those awful things he had to do.  It had to be done, and he did his part, and my respect for him is endless for that part of his life.

It sounds like you have had two wonderful role models.  So often when one parent of such a longtime couple passes... the other just is never the same until they are together again.  This reminds me of a similar, yet very different story that I will have to write a post about.  Ah yes... my Dad telling me "that's my girl !"  How I would just love to hear him say that.  <crinkly smile>

 

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Kirsten:  What kindness you offer me... just before my beddie-bye time.  How I truly would love to hear him say those words.  Maybe, just maybe, I'll see him in my dreams tonight... and can hear those words for myself.  That would be such a great Birthday Present for both of us to share.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

We were very fortunate to have my Dad with us until he was 90, and also fortunate to still have Mickey with us at 91.  I agree, not all of the memories are good, but that's life, we have to take the good with the bad.

You know your AR friends are always here for you..............me and Eddie are doing just fine, thanks for asking.

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) almost 7 years ago

Great tribute, Karen Ann. Not sure why, but I associate certain songs to my Dad, too.

Posted by Eric Michael, Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519 (Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI) almost 7 years ago

What a great memory, Karen Ann. It's true, I think, that as you get older you tend to think back more on how your parents were and what they did and, Eric is right: I associate certain songs and singers with my Mom (she's been gone 14 years).

Posted by Toni Weidman, 26 Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL (Sailwinds Realty) almost 7 years ago

I'm sorry for the losses you've experienced. Memories are so bittersweet. A while back, Karen, you wrote something that left me with the impression that we were not going to hear as much from you from now on on AR. I, for one, am very happy that you're around just as much as ever.

Posted by Jill Sackler, LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate (Broker Associate, Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. "Said and Done!") almost 7 years ago

Karen, I think it' really great you keep the memories of your father alive. Not all of us have the courage or strength to do it with such a strong passion as you. Reading your post has sparked a flame in me to attempt to do the same. Thank you

Posted by Lisa Coates, Residential Home Sales Specialist (Precision Realty) almost 7 years ago

You write beautifully and I guess by the multiple posts you know how well you touch people, that's a gift.  Thank you for bringing Big Joe (my dad) up front today.  He liked to do the two step and I remember them dancing to "When I Grow To Old To Dream"  I was young enough to think them goofy and now I remember them as wonderfully in love.

Posted by Liz Wallace, Broker C21 Sherlock Homes, Rockville Centre, LI, N (Century 21 Sherlock Homes) almost 7 years ago

Hello Karen and I am a day late for you fathers birthday and I miss him just from reading your post ... "Take Care"!

Posted by Robert Vegas Bob Swetz, Las Vegas Henderson Homes for Sale (Realty ONE Group) almost 7 years ago

Awww, how sweet!  Got all misty and missing your dad too!  My step dad of my life since I was ten years old passed away 18 years ago, and he would have been 80 today - His favorite artists were Buck Owens, Patsy Cline, George Jones, Merle Haggard, Tammy Wynette -- growing up, family time meant Hee Haw and the Lawrence Welk Show!!!  Thank goodness for our memories, huh.  It's so hard to lose family.

Posted by Cara Marcelle Mancuso, Call a Marana neighbor, I'm THERE! LONG REALTY (Long Realty - Dove Mountain, Marana AZ) almost 7 years ago

My dad was born in 1919 also, small world and yes I miss him too...

Posted by Paul S. Henderson, CRS, REALTOR®,, Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority! (RE/MAX Professionals.) almost 7 years ago

Karen Anne - That is so touching! You are such an open, loving person. I think of my Mom a lot and my Dad may join her soon. He's 87 and on Dialysis right now and pretty much bed ridden. I talk with him every chance I get because tomorrow I may not be able to.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) almost 7 years ago

Karen Anne, your dad would be proud of his daughter. My dad was born in 1913 and he wanted to fight for our side side, but apparently he had flat feet and was not accepted. He kept the homefires burning here on the continent.

Posted by Ted Tyrrell, Selling Homes in Beautiful Victoria (RE/MAXCamosun (Chatterton)) almost 7 years ago

Ted:  I hope and pray that he is proud of me.  Things were so very different for my Dad, and for your Dad as well... way back then.  It was a totally different world.  Totally.  In many ways it was a much simpler world... yet in other ways it was just about as crazy as the world you and I live in.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Karen,  You just made my masscare smear!  That was a nice tribute to your father and I bet he is so proud of you!     My dad passed when he was 43 years old.   His birthday was on Flag Day so every June 14th, I look up at a flag and salute it for my father!   Take care....

Posted by Stephanie Stringer, Mortgage Loan Originator (First Choice Loan Services NMLS#210764) almost 7 years ago

Stephanie:  Well... that's what ya get for not wearing smudgeproof mascara.  Gotta follow these fashion trends, my dear.  <smile>

Wow... so sorry your Dad passed so early in his life.  You both missed so much of each other.  And... passing on Flag Day... and then looking at the flag and saluting.  I am glad it works for you.  Me... I would be in tears every June 14th. 

Thank you for reading this post.  I will go to your blog and subscribe.  I invite you to do the same.  I wrote a similar post about my Mother last Mother's Day.  It was a "tear-jerker" as well.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) almost 7 years ago

Happy Belated Birthday to your Dad Karen. Very touching post. Your affection towards your father shows how much you miss him and love him. Great post.

Posted by Lanre-"THE REAL ESTATE FARMER" Folayan, I don't make promises.I deliver results. (Keller Williams Select Realtors-Buy a home in Washington DC. Sell a home in Washington DC) almost 7 years ago

Very moving post, very personal and more than likely painful to write. I feel for you and your family. I'm not American born, and sometimes I think I appreciate American soldiers more than most: without them where would I be, hopefully not hungry, but probably barefoot, which was the case when I immigrated.God Bless.

 

Posted by Maria Couto, Realtor with "Results That "MOVE" You' (RE/MAX Premier) almost 7 years ago

A sweet tribute to your dad; my dad was "over there" too  only not before I was born as he was 11 yrs older than my mom. I sometimes think about how old my dad would be and I can not imagine him that frail. Happy Birthday to your dad, Karen Anne.

Posted by Teral McDowell (Referral Patners LLC) almost 7 years ago

Hi Karen, I know what you mean about missing your mom and dad.  You have some very special memories!  Thanks for sharing them.  I lost my dad in 1988 and my mom in 1997.  Doesn't matter how long ago it was, we still miss them, don't we?  My mom would have been 91 last week and my dad would have been 101 last October. 

Posted by Joyce Godwin, RE/MAX Realty Center, Houston Area Relocation Info (12810 Telge,Cypress,TX 77429 -Houston,Cypress,Spring,Tomball) almost 7 years ago

Karen Anne, My Dad was born in 1925 and we lost him to cancer in 1992. Not a day passes that I don't miss him. My baby was 28 days old and he only got to hold her once. Now she's 18, stunning, brilliant and in her first year of pre-law. He would have been so proud and it tugs at my heart strings when I think of what he's missed...and what she's missed by not being able to have him in her life.

Funny you should write this as I have been thinking about him a lot lately. I am training competitively again and going to my first Canadians since the mid-nineties. My father never would have missed this; He attended several of my world championships. We all adopted him as the team Dad. So many of the other Dads were unable to attend.

I know he's with me this time, too.

Thank you, my friend, for writing this one :)

Posted by RhondaHeaslip NanaimoRealEstate (RE/MAX of Nanaimo) almost 7 years ago

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