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Problems with Clicking the "Like" Button...

I do not really spend much time on Facebook... and no time whatsoever on My Space.  I also think that Twitter is silly.  I really do not care what someone had for breakfast, or what kind of poddy paper they use.  I know Twitter MUST work for some, so... good for them.

However, I do know many folks who really seem to enjoy Facebook.  One thing I have heard some of them wonder or complain about, though, is using the "Like" button. 

Not just on Facebook... but as I have seen, that silly "Like" button appears all over the place.

Keeping all of the electronic Internet "wonders" in mind... I wonder what actually happens when someone "clicks" on that seemingly harmless little "Like" button ?

One complaint I have heard... is that occasionally... a few days after someone clicks on that little button... they end up getting "spammy" email from all kinds of new places that never sent them spammy stuff before.

This leads me to wonder if perhaps any time that the "Like" button is clicked on... the person doing the clicking is ADDING or surrendering their own email address to the database of someone they never heard of, or never gave permission to.

And... if that happens... where does that "personal email" information go ?  One guess might be that it goes to someone who is compiling an email information data base.  Then, I would make another good guess that the email address information would end up being packaged and sold to a great variety of marketing companies... who either use or re-sell these email marketing lists.  Then... the spam begins.

Whaddya think ?  Paranoia ?  Or just another surprise from all those invisible people who "milk" the Internet for personal information ?


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Comment balloon 39 commentsKaren Anne Stone • September 12 2010 12:49AM


Karen, I don't think you are paranoid at all. We keep getting sucked into all these little things without realizing where we are going - of course, I had to laugh at the like button on your post!

Posted by Lise Howe, Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC (Keller Williams Capital Properties) over 10 years ago

I don't use Facebook hardlly at all and Twitter never.  I am not sure about the Like button on Facebook.  There has already been a stink about privacy there so I don't think that button makes the slightest difference.  Not sure about other sites and I have never used the AR one.

Posted by Jane Peters, Los Angeles real estate concierge services (Home Jane Realty) over 10 years ago

Lise:  I really didn't think I was... especially with all the spammy stuff that so often bombards us.

And, about the "like" button at the bottom of my post.  I did NOT put it there, and I also did NOT like it when Active Rain started using it.  I would "like" it if we had some sort of control over whether or not it had to appear on each of our individual blog posts.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Jane:  I only have a Facebook page because it was either that, or continue to listing to folks HARPING at me to get one.  All these people... these hordes of people who want to be my "friend"... who I have never, ever heard from.

It's like if YOU were a "friend" of mine on Facebook.  And then I get a request from your dog-walker's mother's hair-stylist's uncle's high-school-friend's sister... who now, for some reason, wants to be my "friend."  How many different ways can you say DUMB ?

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Hey I just pressed the like button above!!! Let's wait and see what happens now lol.  I have to admit sometimes I do like that little affirmation button on Facebook.

Posted by Jenny Kotulak, Broker - Oakville Ontario Real Estate (RE/MAX Real Estate Centre Inc., Brokerage) over 10 years ago

Jane~ This made me giggle because it is funny how people have different ways to express their ideas! I dont like the like button either, where does it go??

Posted by Melissa McKinney, Realtor, (McKinney Realty Group) over 10 years ago

Karen - I'm looking forward to see what happens after Jenny "liked" your post.

Posted by FN LN over 10 years ago

Marc:  That's easy.  Sometime late tomorrow Jenny is going to get an email from Facebook... from my dog-walker's mother's hair-stylist's uncle's high-school-friend's sister... who says that she wants to be Jenny's friend.

Nothing quite like a meaningful inter-personal friendship, doncha think ?

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Jenny:  As I told Marc... sometime late tomorrow you are going to get an email from Facebook... from my dog-walker's mother's hair-stylist's uncle's high-school-friend's sister... who will say she wants to be your friend.  So... whatcha gonna do when she emails you ?  <smile>

For the most part, on MY Facebook page, the only folks I have accepted as "friends" are the ones I would invite to a "girl's night in" pajama party.  I would guess that Marc might want to be at that party as well, but yikes would he look silly wearing YOUR pajamas.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

My only problem with the "Like" button on Facebook is that sometimes I like to keep an eye on things that I don't like.  But there is no "Watch" button so to read things, I often have to "Like" them.  Which then results in a bajillion and three messages from my friends wanting to know why I'm suddenly a fan of Glen Beck.  :|


Posted by Gayla Worrell, Real Estate Webworks (Windermere Real Estate/Everett, Inc.) over 10 years ago

Melissa:  Giggling is a good thing.  But, then again, sometimes when I REALLLLY giggle... my you-know-what's bounce.  I know... TMI.

Yeah... different people have different ways of expressing their ideas.  I taught seventh grade for nine years, and in many ways my emotional development kind of "froze" there.  Thus, that explains many of my ideas and thoughts.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Gayla:  Sooo... you like to "watch"... do you ?  LOL.

Great thought.  Ya might not like them, but you might want to "keep an eye on them."  I totally understand.  And... Glenn Beck.  Oy, I am going to be very, very sick.  That guy is one sick puppy.  So yeah, in order to keep an eye on Mr Beck, it ends up looking like you "like" him.  Ewwwww.

Hope things in Everett are going well for you.  <smile>

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

It's not just the like button that's bothering me lately Karen Anne. I also don't like the advertising that seems to have become much more intrusive now too. I bought a camera recently and there seem to be an abundance of ads popping up camera related all the time now. It seems they're trying to anticipate my needs. It's particularly prevailant on Facebook.

Posted by Denise Hamlin, Broker/Owner, Helping Happy Clients Make Smart Choices (Cardinal Realty ~ 319-400-0268) over 10 years ago

Karen: I quit my facebook account.  Yep I did.  I was getting too much spam and weird virus through video links.  Although I have heard that the percentage of people looking for real estate for sale on fb has tripled, I will resist. 

Posted by Pamela Seley, Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA (West Coast Realty Division) over 10 years ago

Denise:  I have noticed the same thing.  First, they KNOW where you live.  From the sites you visit.  Then, they know what you like, from the sites you visit, and the individual stuff you read.  So... you sign on to something, and they pummel you with stuff that "fits" their idea of stuff you might want to buy.

Strangely enough, my cell phone is an older one.  It makes calls, and receives them.  Pretty high-tech, huh ?  Well... I do not want a new one... cuz they all have one of those GPS chips in them... and then end up knowing where I am and where I have been.  Too Creepy For Me !

Yeah... you go on Facebook, and up along the top right, there are three different ads that they think you will WANT to look at... cuz they have been "tracking" you, and where you have been on the Internet.  I... don't... like... that... !

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Pamela:  I cannot see how anything so anonymous as Facebook can possibly get even close to benefiting my real estate business like blogging... hyper-local and general blogging can.  So, I very much agree with you. 

By the way, I have not, and will not, click on any type of video on something like Facebook.  It's kind of like wiping off the toilet seat.  Ya never know who sat there last.  Ewwwww.

psssst.  15 down and 15 to go.  Yay !

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Hmmmm, I use FaceBook ... just joined Twitter. I'm on LinkedIn and BizNet ... and all sorts of places. I "like" things frequently on FaceBook, but get very little spam.

But my system's locked down pretty derned tight. I have virus checkers and firewalls and spam filters and password protectors and ... well, you get the picture. I also am very careful about cookies and clearing my surfing history.

Truly I think that one does have to be careful what to agree with. But overall, I like "liking" on Facebook. And I rather enjoy some of the comments from others that come through. I keep in touch with quite a number of clients this way and they to me. It's just another way of reaching out and touching them without needing to make the phone call or send the note. ... Although I periodically do that too.


Posted by Gabrielle Nemes, 206.300.8421, S King & Pierce County RE Advocate (RE/MAX Realty South) over 10 years ago

Twitter is an enigma to many, including me. But too many people say it's an important part of a social media strategy, so I'm not giving up on it. There are many tools such as Hootsuite, SocialOomph and Foursquare that can push information out to multiple platforms with one click.

Each snippet of information can link back to your website or AR blog.

Posted by Dave Halpern, Louisville Short Sale Expert (Keller Williams Realty Louisville East (502) 664-7827) over 10 years ago

Gay:  I think that's one of the many things I like about Active Rain.  Each of us my have very different ways we do things, but still we are able to get together and find folks we feel comfy with.  If everyone liked the same things, how boring that would be.

Me... not of that LinkedIn or Twitter stuff.  Never heard of BizNet.  It also sounds like you are moch of a techie than I am... but, then again, just about everyone is more of a techie than I am.

But, I am also very much ofn an introvert... and would probably live in a cave if I could, and if it had Dish Network and DSL... LOL.  I am not what you would call "shy"... but I AM... an Introvert.

Reach out and touch ?  I can just hear Diana Ross singing in the background.  <smile>

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago


I don't use Twitter, or Facebook or Myspace. I have accounts but don't use them much. I do understand the uses of Facebook, and to a lesser extent Myspace, but Twitter... nope don't care.

Posted by Todd & Devona Garrigus, Broker / REALTORS® (Garrigus Real Estate) over 10 years ago

Dave:  This may sound funny to you, but I really don't WANT to "meet" people that way.  I am perfectly content, and very successful at doing things in a much more personal, face-to-face personal referral basis.

I am so glad for you that what you are describing works for you, and that you enjoy it.  I would never disparage it, but I would very definitely say that it is not for me.

Twitter MAY be part of a "social media strategy"... but I do not want any part of it.  Blogging is my cup of tea, and using it to gradually build relationships... whether they beneficial in a business sense, or in a personal sense.  I think it is much "deeper" and much less "superficial" than many of the other "social media" things out there.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

Todd & Devona:  It sounds like our views of this stuff might be similar.  Like you said... Twitter, and for me, MySpace, LinkedIn and the rest... nope, don't care.

ps... I don't even like the impersonal nature of not knowing if I am writing back to Todd, or Devona.  Just silly me... I want things to be more personal.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

I think you are right Karen Anne.  The only time I go on that site is to check on what my daughter is doing and what people are saying to her.

Posted by Jay Markanich, Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia (Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC) over 10 years ago

While I set up a Facebook page ions ago I just started to use it.  I love the little like button.  When I see an article I like I support the writer and click the like button.  So far not one piece of spam.  I am finding Facebook to be a tremendous boost to blog posts and google juice.  Twitter is also interesting.  I don't care about what people had for breakfast or that type of trivia either so I don't hook with people who post nonsense.  Problem solved.  When there is news breaking it is a real source of information however.  What is nice about all of these sites is that you have choice s as to how to use it the way it works for you - or in your case not at all.

Posted by Miriam Bernstein, CRS over 10 years ago

Karen Anne - I am a big fan of Facebook, and the Like Button.  Say for instance, you wrote in your status that you had a wonderful day with Miss Molly T....I would like that.  What I don't like is that if you wrote in your status that you had a terrible day...There is no "Hate" button.  Why? 

While I love Facebook, I have seen a little more activity in the spam department, but nothing too bad.  Now Twitter on the other hand......Don't get it, but am trying to understand the point!

Let me know when the Pajama Party is....please, please, please.

Posted by Amy Hahn, Realtor/Broker - Crystal Coast, NC (Pine Knoll Shores Realty) over 10 years ago
Karen-Anne- I can't say that I have ever been spammed from clicking my "Like" button. I post more to my Business page than I do to my personal page. On my personal page I only accept friend requests from people I like....and want to meet at some point "wink wink".
Posted by Ellie McIntire, Luxury service in Central Maryland (Ellicott City Clarksville Howard County Maryland Real Estate) over 10 years ago

KarenAnne, logistically it just sends the LIKE to your facebook page. Then if friends look at your profile it shows you liked something and perhaps they will read.

I also heard that if a post is liked it gets moved up higher in the search engines. Not sure if that is true...can't remember where I heard it. But the plugin is created by many folks and used a lot on the WP blogs.


Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) over 10 years ago

Hello Karen and I agree that some of our information does go into some type of data base. The problems with all of these networks including AR is we are feeding information through them that they can monitor and do different things with. Even emails such as yahoo, gmail, etc. if you read all the print on the agreement & terms you will see that these companies do many different this with our emails, that's why I don't do any online banking, pay bills, etc.Computers can be very scary if your not careful and know what they are capable of doing, they are one big finger print. And as I am writing this comment to your post I have come up with another one for myself, "thanks my friend"!

VB ;)


Posted by Robert Vegas Bob Swetz over 10 years ago

I "LIKE" Facebook and I like the button too. The button sends a notification to the other person that you liked it and the recipient, if they choose to do so, can follow-up with that person. Sometimes I do, sometimes I just say "hi".  The like button on AR, if clicked, puts a comment on the clicker's home page that says they LIKE your AR post. You are getting FREE viral marketing every time someone clicks on your like button. As for spammy stuff, I get more spam, junk emails including totally unsolicited x-rated material through my brand email than any where else on the web. And they claim to have a filter...

So, Karen Anne, as you have already stated to each their own. We have a right to make our own choices and as independents we get to choose how we market to people, most of the time (remember, you didn't ask for that LIKE button on your blog).

Posted by Teral McDowell (Referral Patners LLC) over 10 years ago

Karen Anne:  I protested Facebook forever based on the fact that you are surrendering your contacts to them anyway.  Discovered that when they suggested a friend to me that was not connected to any other friend I had.  I had authorized them to troll through my contacts and that's where they found this person.  Spooky.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) over 10 years ago

I used to think this kind of dialog was just nonsense and paranoia .... then I googled myself and was amazed at the personal information that was available - just for asking!  So I don't "like" and I also don't "unsubscribe ..."  That just confirms that the email address was valid ....  My favorite keyboard key ... "delete..." and I'm getting really good at it!

Posted by Jack Mossman - The Nines Team at Keller Williams in Stockton, The Nines Team at Keller Williams in Stockton (The Nines Team At Keller Williams) over 10 years ago

Have no problem with FB, my spam filters must be working. Besides my personal page I have 3 fan pages. Haven't done twitter and not into foursquare---kind of annoying but to each their own. One interesting fact is our comments on AR do come back to you when you set up google Alerts. The more comments the more your name shows up.

Posted by Ross Therrien, Realtor, Broker Associate (Prudential Verani Realty, Londonderry,New Hampshire) over 10 years ago


Funny, I've heard this same "theory" about the like button somewhere before - and at the time I dismissed it, but now that you bring it up, it gives me pause- it's the privacy issue thing for me.  You just never really know who's getting your information and what they may be using it for. 


Paranoid?  maybe.  Most likely just wary and cautious, which is always wise I think.



Posted by Jan Mullins (First Credit Union) over 10 years ago

Karen, just say no!  :)

Posted by Jane Peters, Los Angeles real estate concierge services (Home Jane Realty) over 10 years ago

Jane in # 35:  Do you hear Nancy Reagan in here ?  Somewhere... perhaps behind that curtain over there.  You know... over there... "on the right."

Thanks for the advice.  Lemme write that down... <smile>

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 10 years ago

All these thoughts I've never thought of before - I can be so naive :)

Posted by Liz Moras Migic, Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor over 10 years ago

Well I hate to disagree with you Karen... but I like the like button and use facebook... and have not been spammed. I even liked one of your posts...but I will not do that again if You dont like it... but I dont get spammed from craigs list... I am done with forever...

Posted by Debra Leisek ( Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska) over 10 years ago

Karen Anne - I use Facebook, Twitter and Linkedin and haven't been spammed from any of them.  I click the "like" button on Facebook when I want to let the poster know that I read what they posted and enjoyed it.  I wish there was a "dislike" button, though. 

I get spammed like crazy from posting listings on Craigslist!!!

Posted by Lisa Hicks, Serving Central and Southern Maine (Hoang Realty) over 10 years ago

Karen - I am on facebook nearly every day for a short time and I have hit and like button a number of times (in fact, I have hit it on this post).  I don't get spam from it, but I think the trick is to properly set your privacy settings on facebook.  Many folks complain about the privacy cocnerns, but they don't bother to set their privacy settings.  It takes just seconds to do, and then you should have no more issues.

Posted by Susan Neal, Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker (RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks) over 10 years ago